I know that being a mom is stressful. It can be exhausting mentally and physically. But you know what else can be stressful? Marriage. It isn’t always walking down a path holding hands and smelling the roses. Do you know what is the most stressful of all though? LIFE. You lose your job, a child gets sick, your car gets stolen. Anything can happen and throw off your entire life! So when times get tough you need to take a step back and focus on some simple ways to manage your stress. That way, you can get back to being a good mom and a good wife.
Why you need to manage your stress
As a mom, you have these little people that count on you to feed them. Clothe them. Bathe, love, teach, chauffer, and who knows what else them.
Having little people counting on you to have it all together is just… well, there’s only one word for it. It’s stressful. You can say terrifying, nauseating, or paralyzing, but I think stressful is the most accurate.
Which is funny since it is not easy to get a gaggle of kids out the door dressed and on time when you are losing your ever-loving mind because you are thinking about forgetting someone lunch, the house keys, or if you have a lot of them a kid! So how do you manage stress when everything you have to do is stress-inducing?
Now, these techniques will work in your everyday life. And you should absolutely use them as often as you can to help manage stress and maintain balance. But I am going to present these tips with the idea that you are really struggling when you need them. This isn’t just “Timmy forget his backpack again” or “Anne has a stuffy nose” type stuff.
This is the BIG stuff. The life-altering, I don’t know how we are going to get through this stuff as I talked about a few minutes ago. Like losing a job, finding out you have a sick or injured child, or wrecking a car.
5 simple Stress Management Techniques for moms
Take care of yourself
Look, I am not a self-care blogger. I can’t tell you how to lose weight and feel better because I have some pounds to lose myself and like carbs WAY too much. But I CAN tell you that you need to practice basic self-care in order to manage stress levels!
If you look good (clean hair and skin, in CLEAN real people clothes – yoga pants count Y’all) then you will feel… better than you did before. Because at least you can look in the mirror and remember the last time you showered.
Don’t forget to drink water and eat. Girl. If you are dehydrated and have no energy you can’t take care of those little people! So take a break when necessary and grab a bite.
Do something you enjoy
So obviously if you are stressed over something involving money, you don’t want to spend more money and feel guilty the entire time. But I am POSITIVE that you enjoy something you can do for free.
Do you like to read? Get a book from the library!
Watching movies? Pop on a DVD.
Not really sure what to do? Go for a walk and get some fresh air. It will clear your head a bit and make you feel better.
Just make a little bit of time to do something that makes you happy. You won’t regret taking a break from reality.
find joy in the simple things
Even if you are going through a hard time, it is totally okay to have moments of joy.
I remember when we were waiting for Tobias to be scheduled for his open heart surgery and all we did was worry. When would they call? How long could we wait? Why hadn’t they scheduled us yet?
It was one of the most stressful times I’ve been through. But I remember spending time with my neighbor, Mallory. And we would laugh.
One night we baked sugar cookies and iced them.. we didn’t even start until almost 9pm and by the time we were done, we were both beyond ready for bed. We had spent the whole night talking and laughing. And for a few minutes, I didn’t need to stress. Because I found joy in something as simple as being overtired. And the poor decision to make cookies that required being rolled and cut at 9 at night.
Allow yourself to be upset
Sometimes when you are trying to manage your stress you become aware of the fact that you are being very down. Or lashing out when it is undeserved. So now, not only are you stressed, but you are feeling guilty too.
In this situation, you have already done the first step. Which is to realize that you are not being fair to your loved ones (for me it is usually m husband or my kids). So next, let them know that it is you who needs to change, not them. Apologize for your behavior and own the mistake.
Then, this is the important one, accept that you are upset about the situation.
Sometimes a hard situation is your fault. You can still be upset about it. Sometimes you had no control over the situation occurring or how to get out of it. You can still be upset about it.
By allowing yourself to be upset you will be able to better manage the stress that you are feeling. Because you will have acknowledged it and can begin to move past it.
Talk or vent to someone
Do not just keep all of your feelings inside. Get them out to someone.
Go to someone who you know will listen and just be on your side. Someone who has been in a similar situation or is going through it with you. Just find someone that is going to let you say what you need to without being offended or judgmental.
If you don’t think you have anyone, write it down. Speak it out loud. Just GET IT OUT.
By keeping all of your stress and emotion inside you are hurting yourself. I already talked about being unfairly short with loved ones. But your body will show physical signs of your stress level too.
I recently had such severe back pain I could barely walk due to my stress. Heavy stress aggravates an old injury and condition in my lower back and it is a “wait it out and rest” situation, unfortunately. Not much resting to be done. Another way my body has begun showing me my stress is with dry skin on my hands.
It is not just dry skin. It is burning, painful cracks through my knuckles and wrists which I can only self diagnose as psoriasis unless I want to go to a dermatologist. But since it seems to be receding since the stress my family was under recently has begun to die down a bit I am holding off.
The point is, your body will tell you when you need to work on new ways to manage your stress. Make sure you listen to it.
How do you handle your stress?
I would love to hear what works the best for you to handle stress in your life. So what works, and what doesn’t?
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