“Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s a day you’ve had everything to do and you’ve done it.” -Margaret Thatcher
You know those days. The ones where one kid has a doctor appointment, the other has an activity, you need to buy milk, cook dinner, and do the dishes. It’s just a never-ending day. But at the end of it, you feel like superwoman. Because you did it. You accomplished everything. And you can wake up tomorrow to do it all again. Get your FREE SMART goals worksheet from the Resource Library
Why You Need To Set Goals
This is a really important idea to me. Because I’ve always been someone who does best with checklists. The feeling of striking out something I have completed gives me the extra drive to move forward and do more.
A few months ago, I decided to participate in a writing challenge that was 20 days long. For the first 15 days, I said I was too busy. I couldn’t commit to it. I’d never accomplish it. But then at about 8:00 pm the night of day 15, I decided to do it. So instead of having to produce something every other day for 20 days like everyone else participating, I had to produce more than 2 each day to finish on time.
But I broke it down into sections. Set my goals. Told others about the challenge. And you know what? I did it. And I submitted my pieces with about 9 hours to spare!
It’s been about 2 months and I STILL feel accomplished for doing it.
I think everyone can feel this way. And it will change your life.
Learn What You Are Capable Of
As I mentioned above, I originally counted myself out of the challenge because I didn’t think I could do it. But on day 15 I just couldn’t get it out of my head. And I realized that I NEEDED to do it. To prove something to myself.
And now I know that I can.
The biggest critic you have is yourself. So stepping out of your comfort zone in order to prove yourself wrong (or right) is SO important.
You want to set a goal that is realistic but also makes you work hard. A goal shouldn’t just happen easily. But rather keep you motivated and push you to work harder. At the same time, a goal should not be so impossible that it makes you want to quit. Or feel alright for not accomplishing it because it was too hard.
So once you set that goal, you want to do everything you can to reach and exceed them. In order to make it that way you will have to make the goal something you really want.
But by doing this, you will learn what you can achieve. And you can start to apply it to everything in your life.
I now know that I have way more time than I thought I did. Even with a 6 month old and an almost 2 year old. If I can write 10 pieces in 5 days, I can absolutely be a blogger.
By learning what you are capable of, you can start to change your life by setting goals to challenge yourself.
Feel Accomplished Daily
Since I have started learning what I am capable of and setting my goals, I have started to feel incredibly accomplished on a daily basis.
I make a to-do list for the day. And each day I do my best to accomplish it. And since learning that I have time in between things, in the margins of my life, I can do things for myself more often.
So as I slowly make progress toward things I want to do, I am not taking anything away from other family members. In fact, I do more with the kids than I used to. And that just feels so good.
So fit in what you want to be doing where you can. Because that is a huge part of feeling accomplished. When you get to do something you enjoy and not feel guilty about it, you enjoy life more. And as you continue to accomplish things, just keep bringing up new challenges for yourself to keep all the positive feeling and momentum going.
Do what you want to in the margins of your life and change your life by setting goals.
Understand Your Strengths And Weaknesses
I am a true believer in the fact that we need to embrace our strengths and our weaknesses.
So I know that I can ask for too much. And get involved in too many things at a time. I also know that I am all or nothing. When I get an idea in my head, I am not good at letting it go or waiting to do it.
For example, I decided I wanted to start a garden. Only a few weeks later I had everything planted in my new raised garden bed.
Another example, I decided I was unhappy at my job and that I should start considering leaving to get a new one. It was just a fleeting thought that barely crossed my mind at the time. But within days I was actively applying at new positions and more than ready to resign.
I am fully aware that my weaknesses can create major issues for me. But I can also recognize what they are and when they may begin to come into play.
So as you challenge yourself to meet your new goals, make sure that you take note of what works and what doesn’t. And pay attention to how you react to things. Because understanding what you are good at and when you should ask for help is very important. And a necessary piece to change your life by setting goals.
Learn How To Accept Failure
Challenges are, for lack of a better term, challenging.
But failing is not the end. You can get back up and try again. Once you have accepted the failure you can learn from it and move forward.
Reaching your goals will always mean failing on the way. But it’s okay to fail. It’s important really. Because that is how you learn what you are good at. And what really matters to you. Because some things you may realize are not what you thought.
In that case, it is always okay to move on to something new. But you still need to own the fact that you failed. And if you need to, ask for help in order to move forward.
Create New Dreams
The only thing left to do is to create a new big dream.
Decide what you want. Break it down into smaller, more achievable goals, and work your way there.
I’d love to know what your new dreams are! Leave a comment and let me know.