There are 1,440 minutes in every day. 24 hours. 365 days per year. About 80 years on average in America. It sounds like a lot of time. But we still feel like we don’t have enough. Sleeping 8 hours a day. Plus time that we have to allot for things like getting dressed, preparing meals, going to the bathroom, and commuting. Let’s average all that out to about 3 hours a day. Then add in working 8 hours.
We are left with roughly 4 hours. What do you want to fit in 4 hours? A sport? Family time? Watching your favorite show? Talking to your best friend? Going on a date with your husband?
In reality, we have a lot more than 4 hours in a day to do the things we WANT to do. We just have to find it. I want to help you learn how to make the most of every day so that you can get more out of life.
Figure Out What You Want
So the first step is to figure out what is the most important to you.
This will mean different things for different people, so sit down with your husband and talk this over together so that you are working to end in the same place. You can have individual goals and dreams, but if for one of you that means building a school for girls in Africa while for the other that means running a major corporation in New York City, you need to get yourselves on the same page.
There may be a lot of things on your ‘want’ list. But we all know you can only do so much each day. So make sure you are realistic with yourself.
Eating, sleeping, housework, your job. All those things have to happen. They take up a certain amount of time. It is okay to skip a little sleep while you work hard to get something but it is not a long term solution. Living on 4 hours of sleep per night is not going to be the answer for the rest of your life.
So take a really good look at your list and number the items on it in order of importance. Number 1 is the most important, on down to the bottom.
- Spending time with my family
- Becoming debt free
- Raising my kids to be great adults
That’s generally how my list looks. These are the most important things to me. And if you notice, they all align with one another. I can’t raise my kids to be great adults without spending time with my family. And becoming debt free will help to teach my kids not to put themselves into debt, but rather to save money from the start so that they can start out that way.
Your goals should all be little pieces of your big dream for your life.
Prioritize so that you can maximize your productivity. So that you can make the most out of every day.
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Focus and Find Time
Now that you have decided what you really want the most. You have prioritized properly so that you can know what you want.
I want to share something I say to myself constantly. Here goes:
Make it happen.
And it really inspires me. It inspires me because I feel accomplished. I am able to actively decide I am going to do something and then literally make it work. Let me give a few examples.
When I was a teenager I was a figure skater. I was at the ice rink 5 or more days a week for most of the year for several years of my life. And I wanted nothing more than to be a figure skater.
It was everything to me. So when I started to struggle with one of my jumps it became an issue. I was falling a lot and getting hurt. So I started to put my second foot down on the ice when I was landing. In figure skating we call this a crutch.
Even when you don’t need it, it goes down. You would rather two foot the landing than fall. But I knew that I could land that jump. So I made an active decision that I was absolutely not going to put that foot down anymore.
And, let me tell you, I did not put that foot down again. I came about as close to the ice as you can but I kept the foot in the air. My entire upper body was forward and down and prepared to fall. But I had made a promise to myself. So I stood up, still on only 1 foot. My coach was pretty impressed that I didn’t fall given all the bad aspects of my landing.
But I made it happen.
About a month ago a blogger that runs a Facebook group I am in proposed a challenge. It was to write and publish 10 blog posts in 20 days. She did this to help people get over the idea that they weren’t good enough. And that writing takes all this time. It’s hard to put everything out there and that’s what blogging is.
I wanted, more than anything, to participate. But I had 2 kids, a 1.5 year old boy who is just the busiest child, and a 4 month old daughter who I am nursing. I take the kids to the park to get them out of the house. I go grocery shopping. We have appointments every week to get to. I have to clean the house and cook dinner and do the budget.
I have ALL the reasons not to do it. So as time went on I watched people post their progress and wanted it more and more. I encouraged from the sidelines, mentioning that I wished I could do it but with the kids at home it just wasn’t possible right now.
Then, at 8:30pm on day 16 of 20, I decided I was going to do it. I outlined 8/10 posts and had a good plan for the 2 others that night. And I wrote 3 posts the next day. I also spent 3 hours out of the house at the park with the kids because it was 75 degrees and sunny. I also washed the dishes and cooked dinner. My day went like that everyday until I finished. I sent in my submission on day 20, 10 hours before the deadline.
I made it happen.
Make It Happen
So as you can see, I made it happen. And if you put your mind to it, just put your head down and run straight at your goals, you can make it happen too.
All you have to do is look at your day and break it down into sections. I used to cook and eat my meals while the kids napped. But instead of eating at my computer or while I was writing, I watched an episode of something on Netflix. I liked the background noise during whatever I was doing.
But I didn’t realize it was killing my productivity.
So now, I don’t turn the tv on most days. And I get SO much more done. Just with that one change. All my reasons why I didn’t have the time are still true. I have taken on a lot of things that are new in the past 2 months. And I still only have 24 hours in a day. But I am making them all happen.
I am finding the time. I am making the time for what matters most to me. And you can too. Take your priorities. Your dreams. And make the most of every day. Because that is how you live your dreams.
So if you read my example at all you know this is hard work. It’s not easy to make the most of every day.
But if you aspire to be more than you are. To have everything that you want out of life. Then you have to do the work. Because no one is just going to hand it to you.
But you also have to make sure that you are not running yourself fully into the ground. You are busy. And you will be even busier if you are truly making the most of every day the way that you should be to accomplish these big goals. But you HAVE to reward yourself.
It can be whatever you want. A vacation. A week off your schedule. A massage. A date night. Whatever will keep you going.
I am embarassed to say this but all the moms here with me will 100% get it. I got my hair cut in May 2016. My son was born in July 2016. I got my next haircut in August 2017. Yes, 14 months later. And it was lame. The girl spent more time checking her messages on her smart watch than she did paying attention to me. So by the time I had earned a reward, my hair was incredibly long, flat, had no shape to it at all, and needed help. My reward to myself for completing that challenge I was talking about earlier was a haircut at a nice salon in town. I spent more than I ever have before on a haircut. $40. Including tip.
I’ve had 2 haircuts since my almost 2 year old son was born. If that doesn’t tell you how busy I am, I don’t know what will.
So reward yourself with whatever works for you. Even if it is just a hot bath with a bath bomb.
Make The Most Of Every Day
You’ve got this. Write down your goals and tape them somewhere you will see them every day. That way you remember what you are working towards.
Make sure you are on the same page as your spouse and prioritizing what is most important both to your life now and the life you are dreaming of.
Find the time to do what you need to do to achieve your goals. And make it happen.
Reward yourself when you do something major. You deserve something for all of your hard work so find a sensible time and enjoy yourself for a bit.
I’d love to hear your goals. And how you are making it happen. Make the most of every day and you will achieve those goals before you know it.
PS. Don’t know what your goals are? Check out Your Dream Life: Start Living It Today