Do you have everything you want for your family? Does your life today look the way you thought it would 5 years ago? It’s not? That’s okay. Because neither does mine. Priorities change. We get busy. Life gets in the way of our dreams. But if you still have the same picture in your head of where you want to be, then what are you doing to get there? In my family, we are setting family goals. And you should do it too!
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How To Start Setting Family Goals
Today I am not only going to start you off on a mission of setting and achieving your goals. I am going to:
- Explain what family goals are and why you need them
- Give some examples, short-term and long-term
- Motivate you to really use your imagination
- Give you TONS of prompts to begin planning
- Supply a planning sheet in the FREE Resource Library
So let’s get started. And remember, this is a FUN activity. So sit down with your entire family and talk this over together.
What are family goals?
I want to take a second to explain what I mean by “family goals”. When I use this term, I am not talking about the kids getting good grades and you getting a promotion. I am talking about what you want your life to look like.
And it is going to be different for every family. So don’t stress if your goals are different than mine. Because they should be!
Maybe your family wants to buy a luxury RV and travel the country for 2 years camping and homeschooling the kids. Or you want to go live in China for a year. Maybe you want to settle down in the town you and your husband grew up in and own a home so your kids always have a familiar place to return to.
Whatever your family goals are, they are right for you.
Why do you need family goals?
Life is really hard. And it is way too easy to just go through it managing crisis after crisis. And then waiting for the other shoe to drop. Because we all know it will eventually.
It is like when you are driving down a road with potholes. You can try to swerve to avoid them all. And put all of your attention to that and you’ll probably only hit a couple. Or you can ignore the potholes and just drive really slowly through them, dealing with any damage they make as it happens.
But if you live like that, you are never going to actually get anywhere.
So instead, make a plan. Avoid that road when you are driving places. Because that way you can see what is going on around you. And if you need to do a little maintenance here and there, do it. But it doesn’t have to consume your life.
To apply this to your family goals, you are going to have a crisis. Monthly, weekly, sometimes even daily. But it only makes as big of an impact as you allow it to. So make the decision to keep moving forward toward your goals, despite what gets in your way.
Keeps you motivated
We will talk about the types of family goals you will want to create in a moment and I will come back to this concept again. But for now, I just want you to know that these goals are meant to give you something to look forward to.
Every time you have a bad day. When you hate your job. Or when you just want to sit down and watch TV because doing everything else is hard and boring.
Think about WHY you are doing those things. Go back to the bigger picture and imagine what you will get because you did something you didn’t really want to today.
Your family goals should be the shining, glittery light at the end of the tunnel. The REASON you make decisions to do the hard things today. Because if you do THAT today, then you are going to reach that big goal tomorrow.
Family Goals Examples
These are just some ideas to help you understand the basics of what your BIG family goals should look like. But you can use the larger goals in your everyday life too. For example, deciding when to start your very first garden as a family. Or planning a vacation for 18 months from now. These are smaller family goals, but just as motivating.
In 15 years my family wants to be settled somewhere that we plan to stay. We will have a home that we are proud to own. We will be financially stable and able to live comfortably and happily together.
Our dogs will have room to run in our fenced-in yard. Our kids will live near their friends. We will have a community that we are a part of and comfortable with.
Become debt free.
Save for house.
Take weekend trips to potntial areas to live in.
In 5 years my family wants to move to Europe and be engaged in the culture there. Exposing the kids to different countries, languages, and lifestyles.
We will buy property and have a small farm that we run as a family to become more self-sufficient. Our kids will grow up being able to serve themselves and not have to rely on others.
Save $25,000 to begin our new life abroad.
Learn 2 new languages.
How To Use Family Goals To Stay Motivated
First, you need to create the RIGHT family goals.
They should be something that you want more than anything else out of life. You should be able to see it in so much detail that it is like a movie in your mind.
The goals should be absolutely real to you. This shouldn’t be some kind of pipe dream that you think can never happen. If you don’t believe in the possibility of your family goals becoming a reality, you will never be motivated to do the work to reach them.
Like I said before, life is hard. For most people, if you ask them to come up with the 5 worst things that they have been through and the 5 best things, the 5 worst are WAY easier to remember. Bad memories tend to make a larger impact on us. Just like people are more likely to leave a negative review than a positive one.
I know that when we are considering where to go out to eat we are quick to think of the places we WON’T go. The place with the waitstaff and manager that totally ignored us when my husband accidentally knocked his full Coke over on the table. I was standing in the middle of the aisle nursing my daughter and covered in sticky soda. We tried to wipe it all up with the 3 napkins on the table but we could only do so much.
No one ever came to see if we needed help or offered more napkins. Our waitress even dropped off my salad on our table less than a minute after it happened while we were cleaning. And his glass was not refilled until halfway through eating our food. She actually filled my half-full glass first. The manager and 3 waitresses stood behind the bar not 15 feet from us and watched the whole thing without offering a hand.
But the restaurant where the waiter came and joined us at our table while taking our orders. And talked to us about his favorite items on the menu, answering all of our questions. Then going forward to get us a free appetizer because my husband is military. I don’t remember to suggest there right off the bat.
It is just how the brain works. We shy away from doing the hard work if the result is not something we think is actually possible.
So make sure that your family goals are ABSOLUTELY within your reach.
Don’t make them too easy.
Now your goals obviously need to be doable. But they should not be something that is not even a stretch.
If you have already dug out a place for your garden and started all the plants indoors, then starting your garden is probably not the most productive family goal that you can come up with.
There is a balance involved in setting family goals just like there is to everything. You need to find the sweet spot between unrealistic and unmotivating goals.
By choosing a goal that you believe you can work towards you will be on the right track.
Goal: Become debt free.
That goal is a hefty one. Many people are in such high amounts of debt that it is difficult to acknowledge. When you add up your credit cards, car loans, student loans, and whatever else you may have, it can be an astronomical number. Easily $40,000 or much more.
So when you are looking at an annual income of $30,000 or less it can seem impossible to pay that off.
But being debt free is NOT an unrealistic goal.
You just need to break it down into smaller steps. Attack one debt at a time and come up with action steps to adjust and lower your expenses. Figure out a way to raise your income whenever possible. Decide on ways that you are going to work on paying off your debt as a family. And suddenly, you will begin to see progress.
If each family member gives up $20 worth of spending each month then you will find a lot of money you didn’t know you had.
Setting Your Family Goals
In order to begin setting your family goals, I suggest that you sit down together and talk about each individual’s dreams first. That way you are all on the same page as far as where you want to go as a family. This needs to be done in a way that there is ABSOLUTELY no judgment. Each of you needs to be willing to speak freely about what you want out of life in order for this to be beneficial.
Once you have an idea about what each person wants, have fun! This is a time where you should get to daydream about what the future holds.
Do you want to own your own business? Or travel to every state in the US? Maybe you want to build your own home.
Whatever your dream is, this is the time to discuss it in detail. What will it look like, where will it be, who is it with, why do you want it? All these questions need to be answered in detail. Use all your senses to describe it and make it real. Cut pictures out of magazines and make a dream board.
This needs to be so real that you can almost touch it. Because then you will be motivated to do all the hard work that you need to in order to actually reach your family goals.
Family Goals Prompts
Go through these questions to get your imagination flowing. They will help give you direction when you are setting your family goals. Some of these questions are going to be very deep. But they will start a dialogue with your family (and within yourself) about WHAT you want your life to look like and WHY. Which are things that you need to be able to answer when you are setting your family goals.
But know that it is okay to let this be fun. Because you can use it to set your big goals, and also break it down to set your smaller ones too. If you achieve something that was hard work and took a lot of time and effort, follow it up with a nice family vacation so you can all enjoy and relax together. These questions are not meant to be difficult, but they may seem that way if you are battling something.
For more information on how to break your goals down, I highly recommend The 12 Week Year.
- Is there someone in your life you want to see more?
- Are you happy with the kind of friend you are?
- What do your current relationships bring to your life?
- Are any of your relationships toxic?
- What relationship is most important to you?
- How can you improve about your relationships?
- What do you want your family to look like?
- Who is your family?
- How do you currently feel about your family?
- What role do you want to have within your family?
- How do you want your family to see you?
- How important is money in your life?
- What amount of income would make you feel accomplished?
- What will you do to make money?
- Do you currently ‘work to live’ or ‘live to work’?
- What do you want to do with your money?
- Where do you live?
- What type of vacations do you take?
- Do you have a daily routine or is every day different?
- How often do you travel? Where do you go?
- Do you own property or rent? What’s It like?
- What is your work schedule like?
- Do you cook at home or eat out?
- Who lives with you?
- Do you exercise?
- How often do you see your friends/family? What do you do with them?
- What does your diet look like?
- How often are you active?
- Are you comfortable with the way you look? What do you look like?
- Do you drink/smoke? How often?
- Do you see a dentist?
- Are you struggling with/working on anything emotionally or mentally?
- How involved are you with the community?
- Do you have neighbors?
- Are you part of a church/club?
- What do you like about the community you live in?
- Where does your happiness come from?
- If you were to pray, what would you ask for?
- What are you afraid of?
- Are you happy with who you are?
- Have you worked to understand your emotions?
- Is there anything that you are working to accept about yourself?
Start Setting Your Family Goals
Now that I’ve walked you through everything, you should be ready to start setting your family goals. Don’t make it too difficult.
- Keep them realistic
- Don’t make them too easy
- Use your imagination
- Break large long-term goals down
- Have fun
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