Marriage is hard. But research says that the divorce rate is falling. So is it getting easier? I don’t think so. I think couples are just working harder and being more open about what needs to be done to have a successful marriage. So I am going to share with you 8 successful marriage tips that I believe every couple needs.
8 Successful Marriage Tips every couple needs
1. invest in your partner
Your spouse needs you to put real effort into your relationship and them. Meaning you should spend time doing things they enjoy even if it isn’t your favorite thing. Take time to talk with them and check in regularly. And share what is going on in your life so that you are equally invested emotionally. There will be times when one partner needs more emotional support than the other but you should both be emotionally present in the relationship at all times. Sharing what is going on in your life on a regular basis (and listening to your spouse talk about their’s) is an important successful marriage tip.
2. things happen, be flexible
Throughout your marriage, you will both have plans and dreams. Some will work out and some won’t. It is important to remember that one partner can’t always be the one to get their way. Both of you need to prioritize the other’s dreams in order to make them a reality. Sometimes that will mean adjusting your own plans so their’s can come true. Be okay with that and you will continue to have a successful marriage.
3. love them. even when it’s hard.
Things are going to get in the way. You may be tired or busy. Maybe they did something that made you angry and you are fighting. Or things are just not what you thought they would be right now.
There will be times when you don’t really like your spouse. They will do something that makes you angry. Or say something hurtful. Maybe you will realize that you disagree on something important to you. But just because you aren’t on board the “everything is perfect” marriage train right now, doesn’t mean that you don’t still love your partner through it all.
At the end of the day, your relationship is more important than anything else and you need to love your spouse even when they are not easy to love.
4. It’s okay to fight, but always fight fair.
Don’t fight dirty. Stay on topic. No swearing or name-calling. Take turns talking and use “I” statements. If you want to have a successful marriage you can’t be cruel or purposefully hurtful in a fight. Bringing up past issues that are thought to be resolved or calling each other names is not a good way to be productive. The point of fighting is to come to a resolution that you can both live with, not to hurt each other.
5. never stop enjoying each other
Take as many chances as you can to spend time together doing things you both enjoy. Think back to when you were just starting to date and the things you used to do. If it’s been a while since you’ve done something, do it again.
If you want a successful marriage tip that should always be present, this is the one to take away. Continue enjoying one another so that you can have fun, relax, and recall what made you fall in love to begin with.
6. support each other’s dreams
Your dreams may change over the years. But you will be passionate about them no matter what they may be. Having the support of your spouse is very important for your marriage to be successful in the long term.
If you are working hard to achieve something and your spouse thinks it is stupid or a waste of time, you become incredibly likely to lose motivation fail. And that is not fair to either of you. So even if you don’t understand it, support your spouse and their dream’s to the best of your ability.
This also means helping them to see logic throughout the process of pursuing their dreams. Help them know something isn’t working but also help them realize an alternative way to reach their goals.
7. Apologize when you are wrong
This is part of being a responsible adult that will also be an important successful marriage tip.
If you are wrong, you need to own it. Apologize for what you said or did and actually mean it. Everyone is wrong sometimes. It is part of life. You will both have times when you need to apologize and admit that you were wrong. When it is your turn to do it, don’t make it difficult. And when it is your spouse’s turn, allow them to apologize and keep their dignity. Don’t rub it in. Accept the apology and move on.
8. Never Lie to each other
This should be obvious. But it has to be mentioned. Because trust is pretty much the most important part of a relationship.
You have to trust each other with everything in your life. Money, kids, personal information, emotional support, all your secrets, intimacy, and an unlimited number of other things. If you can’t trust your spouse with your deepest secret, who can you trust with it?
SO don’t lie to each other. And don’t put your spouse into a position where they feel like they need to lie to you. It isn’t fair to either of you.
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With these straightforward tips you will be able to have a successful marriage by working together and supporting each other. So do the work and have a lasting marriage.
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