Your kids always want your attention. Sometimes it is a little bit of a pain when you are trying to do things and they are always whining at you and interrupting you. “Mom, mom, mom…” all day long. But when they are begging you for your attention it is because they thrive on quality time with you. Learn about the importance of spending time with kids and get your FREE printable list of ideas to spend time with your kids from the Resource Library.
The Importance of Spending Time with Kids
When you are looking to spend time with your child you want to make sure that it is true quality time or it is not going to give them what they need. Find out more about How To Use The Quality Time Love Language.
Quality time is not about the activity you are doing, but the fact that you are doing it TOGETHER. You want to make sure that the activity is something that your child enjoys, even if you don’t. The goal of doing it is to enjoy being with your child and making them happy. By showing your happiness over being with them they will feel loved.
Unconditionally spend time with your child
Make sure that the amount of time spent with your child is not directly tied to how they are acting. Don’t avoid your child because they are behaving negatively a lot. The fact that they are acting out could actually be a sign that they are requesting more of your undivided attention and quality time.
Communicate to your child that you love them even when they are upset or have made a mistake. And spend time with them anyway.
When spending time with kids you want to make sure that you are being honest with them. You can do this in a lot of ways, but a really helpful way to convey that you are trustworthy is by sharing something yourself. So share a story of past experiences that may assist with something that your child is going through. It will let them know you listened to them and that you are willing to help them through it.
You can also express that you have struggled too in order to convey that there is value in your child’s endeavors. This can encourage them to keep going because they will be able to accomplish what they are working on, even though it is hard.
By having these conversations, you are teaching your child how to process thoughts in order to have positive conversations. And to have respect for others while talking about things that may lead to opposing views. In short, you are teaching them respect and that it is okay to disagree but to listen to other opinions and ideas anyway.
Planning to spend time with kids
The best way to express love to your child who needs quality time is to plan for it on a regular basis. Don’t only plan it for the entire family, but also individually with each child.
Make sure that you set aside time each week that your child can look forward to. A family dinner, or a special trip after school, schedule something. It doesn’t have to be a lot but it should be consistent.
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