If you are newlyweds or 10+ years in, I know you want to have a happy marriage. And (I hope!) you know that it takes a lot of effort. So I’ve got 2 tips that you can use to have a happy marriage no matter what season you are in! And make sure to grab a copy of the Spouse Cheat Sheet Questionnaire from the Resource Library and have some fun conversations and meaningful moments with your husband.
Talk About Everything and Nothing
So I know that you must be thinking “what the heck is she talking about? How can we talk about everything AND talk about nothing?” But stick with me because this is key to have a happy marriage.
Communicating with your spouse about what is going on in your life is HUGE. If something is bothering you or something really great happened, share it! Don’t keep things from your husband. You want to be on the same page about things. And, think about it, how would it make you feel if something big (good or bad) happened to your husband today and he came home and didn’t tell you. Then like 3 days later his mom mentions something about it and you have NO CLUE what she’s talking about?
I would assume you’d be pretty hurt and angry. I know I would!
So go out of your way to talk to your husband the way that you would want him to talk to you. That means telling him everything.
And when you’ve gotten all the big stuff out of the way, make sure that you spend some time talking about nothing too. About the weather, the meme that made you laugh on Facebook, the new movie that you want to see. All the things that don’t REALLY matter. The nothing is important too.
It’s a big part of what made you fall in love in the first place, so make sure you talk about it.
For some information on communication with your husband, check out
Be Open And Honest
This is very simple. DO NOT lie to your husband. Just don’t do it. If you are lying you will never have a happy marriage. Not really.
I’m not talking about the little ones that don’t really matter. Like “does this dress make me look fat?” No. That’s not what I mean.
I mean that if your husband says something that is hurtful to you, tell him. If he does something that bothers you, let him know. If you had a really bad day and need a break, tell him.
What makes this hard for a lot of people is usually one of two things.
- you are worried about offending or hurting your husband. So you just lie or don’t mention something.
- you are embarrassed.
But this is the person that you care about the most. Your husband should support you and do his best to understand what you are saying every.single.time. Just like you should do for him.
I know that there have been times where I have not said something because I knew my husband would take it wrong and be offended. And that it would probably lead to a fight.
But here’s the thing.
I believe that it is unfair of me not to mention something when it is small, but then get super angry about it later when it keeps happening. Because he doesn’t even know that it bothers me. And honestly, I’d rather have a disagreement and talk it out and explain myself now, than have a big blow up over something silly later.
Being open and honest at all times is the best way to lay the groundwork to have a happy marriage.
Quick Tips To Have A Happy Marriage
- Spend time together
- Know your Love Languages
- Go out together (kid free)
- Put away the devices and screens
- Have a Weekly Marriage Check In
To have a happy marriage, you have to do the work. So be okay with putting in time and effort for your marriage to last. And don’t forget to get your Spouse Cheat Sheet Questionnaire from the Resource Library