I’m busy. I don’t have a job. But I do have kids. And having kids keeps me busy. I also do a lot of other things. I have a vegetable garden for the first time this year and I blog on this website. The budget and all the bills are managed by me. Laundry and cooking are usually done by me too. This is just a few of the things that I do every day. And I am taking on more and more all the time. Because I am doing my best to embrace life. And sometimes that means leaving dirty dishes in my sink.
I have a TON of things I do daily. A lot of them I don’t even realize I am doing. And by the end of the day I wonder why I got nothing done. But if I actually go back through what I did, I figure it out.
One of my days this week looked like this.
I woke up with Tobias and Temperance at 5:20am. Got them both out of bed and fed them both breakfast. Temperance nurse and Tobias had fruit and milk. Stuart left for work while I was doing all this. At the same time I let the dog out and fed him. Started a load of laundry and made myself coffee, cleaning the Keurig before I did.
After everyone (except me) had eaten, I changed the kids. New diapers and clothes. Tobias went back to bed and Temperance sat on my lap while I ate and sat down to work on my blog. At 6:45, yes just over an hour after waking up, Temperance went back to sleep in her swing. I kept working on the blog. Then checked emails quickly before getting myself dressed. Temperance woke up so I changed her diaper again.
Tobias woke up at 8:30. I changed him and got him dressed to leave. I made the grocery list and got the diaper bag ready to go. Strapped Temperance into her car seat, put the dog in his kennel and left for the park. We played at the park and left around 11am.
We got lunch with another mom and her son. Then went to Walmart for a few things. We got home around 1:30 when both babies went to sleep again. I went out and watered the garden. Then I worked on the blog (Temperance fussed for about 30 minutes while I went in and out before coming out to sit with me again instead of napping) Tobias woke up and I had a video interview at 2:30.
Stuart got home at 3:30. I did the dishes and cooked dinner. 5:30pm we ate dinner. 6:30 I fed Temperance while Tobias played and Stuart took a bath. 7:15 Temperance went to bed. 7:45 Tobias went to bed. I folded laundry then worked on the blog until 9:15pm. I fed Temperance before going to bed at 10pm.
That was not my normal day.
I did more work on the blog than I usually do (close to nothing normally) because I am doing a challenge. I did not clean the entire kitchen like usual. No singing and dancing with the kids. I didn’t play with blocks or puzzles with Tobias. Lunch was not cooked at home. We only had leftovers for dinner so I only had to bake garlic bread.
Normally more cleaning up is done. But I felt so accomplished. The dirty dishes did not get washed.
We’re Only Here Once
This week I realized something.
I have tons of things I NEED to do. I have even more that I WANT to do.
But my kids will only be this age this one time. And I don’t have an infinite amount of time with them. So I will play with them at home when the weather isn’t great. We will play outside or at the park when it is. Tobias had a great time playing with other kids because we went to the park.
I only get to share what I’ve learned today once. And I should do it while it is fresh in my mind. If I want to be a blogger (and I really do!) I have to do it now. I want to help as many people as I can. And that starts now. With this post. With the 3 I published yesterday for this challenge.
I had an interview to become a leader for an outdoor class for children that I get to schedule on my own time and bring my kids to. So not only do I get to be outside and make a little money. But I get to do it with my kids too. And they get to make friends (And bonus! So do I!) while playing.
I’m taking care of my garden because I want to be able to say I grew most of the vegetables we ate this summer. I take pride in doing things to help my family. So I am going to keep doing them.
So washing the dirty dishes in my sink can wait.
Why I’m Okay With Dirty Dishes
It’s raining today. So I am stealing a little time to write this. And Tobias is getting some supervised solo play time while his baby sister naps.
Don’t worry, a load of laundry is already washed and drying in the dryer. It will be folded after lunch. The kitchen counters are clean. The floor is vacuumed.
But I played with both of my kids this morning. I am making them a homemade lunch. Dinner tonight will be cooked and on the table by 5:30. We will play more after we eat until bedtime. I will finish making Temperance’s Easter skirt.
I will feel happier when I lay down in my bed tonight. Because I did things I Want to do today. And I spent it with my kids. And with my husband when he gets off work. I may have dirty dishes, but I don’t care.
The dirty dishes can wait. They are not important. My family is important. Me getting to do what I enjoy is important. Making time to juggle all my responsibilities and enjoy life is my priority. And this week, I am happy with the outcome.
Doing it all is impossible. But I am going to do the important stuff. My family, my kids get my time.
The dirty dishes in my kitchen sink can just keep waiting.
What do you skip doing some days so you can do something you love?
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