Every one of us has flaws. It is part of what makes us unique. The birthmark on your cheek. Your freckles across your nose. The way you snort when you laugh. How you can’t take constructive criticism. The way you want everything done your way. All of these things are flaws. But they are all a part of what makes you the person that you are. And you NEED to accept your flaws before you can begin to love yourself.
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Define Your Flaws
The first step to accepting your flaws is to realize what they are. But I want to be REALLY clear on something. A flaw does not have to be a bad thing. Did you get that? I’m going to say it again, just in case.
A FLAW DOES NOT HAVE TO BE A BAD THING.
When I saw ‘flaw’ I mean it is something that is different than others. So your unique firey red hair. Or your birthmark. Those can feel like flaws to you. But they are a part of you. And if you have a problem with them, they are flaws. At least for now.
So really dig deep and define your flaws. What are the things that you aren’t crazy about, about yourself? Do you get angry easily? Or maybe you are too nice and let people walk all over you. Whatever they are, be honest with yourself about how you feel about it. Because you can’t accept your flaws until you admit to yourself what they are.
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What Do Your Flaws Keep From You?
If one of your flaws is actually affecting your life, you need to realize what your life could be.
I don’t like doing new things. I am always worried that I am going to look dumb and be made fun of. Or I will realize that I don’t know what I am doing and people will laugh at me. So for a long time, I would avoid doing new things. And I would get crazy anxiety when I did. Like sick to my stomach, flushed cheeks, pale face anxiety.
But I realized that at some point I would have to do new things if I ever wanted to get anything out of life. I couldn’t just continue on doing ONLY things that I had done before. Doing the safe things.
So I dove in. I got a new job, met my husband, got married, had kids, moved 3 times in 2 years, and BOOM! Here I am. I absolutely love my life. And all because I did something new. So now, even though I still get nervous and a little anxious, I am willing to do new things. Because something good may come out of it.
Realize What You Could Have
Look at what your flaw is. And figure out what you are missing because of it. If your flaw is your red hair, embrace it. Wear colors that look incredible with it. Style it so people stop and tell you how awesome it looks. Imagine what it would be like to really be able to feel comfortable in your own skin.
And know that you CAN have that.
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Accept Your Flaws As A Part Of You
Now that you know what your flaws are and what you are missing by letting them hold you back, it is time to accept them.
Do not let your flaws rule your life. Your hair is red. It is part of the wonderful you. And you should embrace it, love it, and flaunt it.
You want everything done your way. That’s fine. But don’t be rude to others because they don’t do it like you. Learn to let it go unless it directly affects you in a negative way. And to be okay with the fact that you prefer things done in a specific way. Just know that when someone does something for you, a thank you goes a long way.
Someone in this world, your spouse or your kids, needs you exactly the way that you are. They love you for who you are. So you need to start to accept yourself too, flaws and all.
Now that you are working to accept your flaws, you are on your way to knowing how important it is to love yourself. In order to have everything you want in life, to be truly happy, you need to know how to love yourself.
Check out First Love Yourself: Road to a Successful Relationship to read more about the importance of it in your relationship.